Across Australia, Year 6 families are doing the rounds of high school open nights, information evenings and tours.
Perhaps in your area, you don’t get a choice of schools. Maybe you and your child have already made up your mind about next year.
Or maybe the decision is more difficult. Your child may be torn between the school their best friend is going to and the one their cousin or parent loved. Maybe you’re the one losing sleep over it.
Choosing a high school can seem enormous. It’s six years of your child’s life, at an age when so much is changing. And the choice can feel so much more fraught when neighbours, friends and family are heading in different directions.
So how do you cut through the noise and work out what actually matters?
Here’s something to take the pressure off
Australian research suggests there is no such thing as the “best” high school. What matters far more than a school’s reputation is the fit between the school and a particular child.
As the Australian Education Research Organisation has shown, even in high performing schools, students sit right across the achievement distribution. In other words, there is no “average” school with “average” students. In every school, there are students who perform well, in the middle and at the lower end of the scale.
The differences within schools – which teachers your child gets, which classes they sit in, who they sit beside – often matter more for learning and wellbeing than the differences between schools.
For example, Australian analysis of international reading data found 82% of the variation in Australian 15-year-old performance came from differences within schools, not between them.
So instead of asking which is the best school, try asking which school will help my child thrive? There are several elements that can help you determine this.
Belonging and relationships
Australian research has consistently shown a strong sense of belonging at school predicts engagement, attendance, mental health and achievement.
For students who “don’t fit the mould”, students from rural communities, students with diverse cultural backgrounds, finding the right school can be even more important.
Belonging is often the difference between thriving and feeling invisible. Our recent review found relationships, recognition of individuality and feeling genuinely known mattered most when it came to student wellbeing.
How does the school structure connection? Are there study groups, year coordinators, mentors, Year 12 buddies? Will an adult actually know your child by name?
What happens in the senior years?
Schools are not interchangeable when it comes to what they offer in the senior years. Some are heavily ATAR-focused, others have rich vocational pathways, strong arts or sports programs, or trade options.
A child who lights up doing hands-on work needs a school where metalwork or hospitality is treated as a real pathway, not a “fall back”. Australian research shows vocational subjects can sit alongside ATAR study, they don’t have to be either/or.
Ask how subject choices are made in the senior years. Also about extension options for kids who race ahead, and support programs for those who need more time with their academic work.
Values and culture
Most schools’ websites talk about values such as respect, resilience and excellence. The real question is whether the culture matches the marketing.
How does the school respond when a student makes a mistake or does the wrong thing? Is there a restorative response (a structured conversation that focuses on understanding the impact caused and repairing relationships) or just punishment? Research suggests punishment alone rarely changes behaviour, but understanding the impact on others, and being part of the solution, often does.
What happens around bullying? Research consistently points to whole-school approaches as the most effective response. This means leaders, teachers, support staff, students and families are involved, not just the leader responsible for bullying. Look for an easy to find, clear, public anti-bullying policy. Also look for staff who can describe what they actually do when bullying is reported, not just what the policy says.
How is mental health supported? Are there specific programs and approaches? Research shows academic outcomes are also connected to students’ wellbeing and behaviour.
Other questions to take with you to open days
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Tell me about a student who struggled, how did you support them?
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How do you handle friendship conflict?
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What does a typical Year 7 day look like?
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How will I hear from you about my child during the year?
Some final thoughts
Beyond talking to teachers, try to talk to current parents and students. Stop and ask the awkward questions.
And bring your child into the conversation. Adolescents who feel they had a real say in choosing their school tend to have a smoother transition to Year 7.
Meanwhile, remember, a great school for one student may not suit another. This is about finding out what will work best for your child.
